Thank you to each person who came out to Textures & Tea II – A Candid Conversation
UniqueElliott Thank you for your outstanding work on the custom gift boxes & decorations! C3 Talk To Me Thank you for capturing fantastic photos and creating a dope recap video! Thank you Nourish Your Curls Boutique & Shead LLC for partnering with Naturally ACT this event was made possible because of YOU!!!
Did you miss me? It’s been over a year since my last real post, I have allowed negative self-talk, doubt, and even fear to keep me from doing what I truly love. I have wanted to post for a while, in fact, I have written numerous blogs that I have yet to post. Why? Because I told myself no one cares about what you have to say, people only want to read about your natural hair journey. But, after an amazing weekend away I realized I do have something, I have to work on speaking life about me, even if one person reads this it’s totally worth it.
So for my first post back, I want to share how I have been dealing with anxiety. Since I was a child I would sit in my room and analyze everything that happened that day. Constantly asking myself questions: “Why did I say that?”, and, “Why did they respond to me like that?” I was convinced that everyone hated me. I was reminded of this when I read a post By Holly Riordan, entitled “My Anxiety Convinces Me That Everyone Hates Me” by Holly Riordan Just about everything she said I could relate to.
My anxiety makes me question everything. When someone compliments me, I question if they are being honest. If someone tells me they love me it’s hard for me to believe them. I question everything, it’s hard for me to understand why they would want anything to do with someone like me.
Recently, a friend said to me “I don’t understand how you can be a negative person and a believer?” This stopped me in my tracks, I had no response. I never thought that my anxiety reflected so poorly on my faith. I am still navigating how to reconcile my faith and letting go of my anxiety.
I wanted to share some of the lessons I have learned in dealing with my anxiety. Check out a few coping Strategies. Try these when you’re feeling anxious or stressed.
- Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head.
- Eat well-balanced meals. Do not skip any meals. Do keep healthful, energy-boosting snacks on hand.
- Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks.
- Get enough sleep. When stressed, your body needs additional sleep and rest.
- Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health. Check out the fitness tips below.
- Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly.
- Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary.
- Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn’t possible, be proud of however close you get.
- Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?
- Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.
- Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
- Get involved. Volunteer or find another way to be active in your community, which creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress.
- Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify? Write in a journal when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, and look for a pattern.
- Talk to someone. Tell friends and family you’re feeling overwhelmed, and let them know how they can help you. Talk to a physician or therapist for professional help!!!
I am still learning ways to overcome my own insecurities. This year I have been more intentional about managing my emotions. If you have tips to share I would love to hear then leave a comment below!
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Candid Conversations about Hair & Beauty! Textures & Tea offers a candid, authentic talk about hair and beauty.
Textures & Tea II will be held on Saturday, August 4 this event is all about bringing together like-minded people for a candid conversation about Hair & Beauty.
Join Kayon Crosby of Nourish Your Curls Boutique, Melissa Albury of Shead and your host Aleka C. Thrash of NaturallyACTfor a fun-filled afternoon of candid conversations about hair, beauty all over a light meal.
What to expect?
- Great Conversations (Real Talk)
- Giveaways (Win products)
- Shopping (Buy products)
- Exchange products (*Bring those new or lightly used products and swap with other naturalistas.)
Who should attend?
- *Everyone is welcome.
Please Note: By entering the event, you agree that Naturally ACT| ACTPhotoMedia and affiliates will videotape and photograph you including your voice, conversation, and sounds. You also agree that your photo or a likeness of you may be used for promotional purposes without compensation to you.
TICKETS ARE NON REFUNDABLE!
Let’s start from the beginning I graduated High School in 2001 after being told by multiple teachers that I would never earn my diploma let alone a degree. So, I’ve I had no plans to attend a college then I received multiple scholarships that covered my first year at a Community College. After two years of Community College I was preparing to attend an Art School in Georgia then my mom was diagnosed with MS so I didn’t feel comfortable moving away!
Fast forward to 2007 I moved to Grand Rapids to attend Cornerstone University. I was working two part-time jobs (45 hours a week) and taking 16 credit hours. At one point I had a 3.4 GPA this is significant because I was told that I would never be successful in college because I’m dyslexic.
I remember being in the 9th grade in front of my English class a teacher told me to drop out of high school get pregnant and go on welfare because I would never make it in the real world. My amazing mother’s removed me the school, and I connected with Mrs. Tami Wilburn who served as my advisor. She not only helped me go from “special Ed class” to mainstream classes, but she also helped me learn how to learn! Thank you, Mrs. Wilburn, for all you did for me in High School.
My last semester at Cornerstone was the worst! I was doing two internships, working like crazy and taking a theology course. I was scheduled to take two summer classes that would have allowed me to walk in the May 2012 commencement ceremony. Shortly after graduation, I learned that I failed my classes! I gave up, I just didn’t have it in me to go back in the fall. So, I took an unintentional 5-year break! I kept saying I would go back and just didn’t want to deal with failure again…
In 2016 I got a new job that was contingent upon me finishing my degree. I felt like it was Gods way of saying, ‘finish what you started’! I returned to school to retake my last 3 classes. Praise God I passed theology then failed my math class for the 4th time. Had a withdrawal from my stats class to avoid failing again. In 2017 I retook both the math class and statistics and passed with C+ I was praying for a D so God really came through! Although my GPA was not what I wanted to be nor did I finish on time but I finished what I started!!
This is just a part of my story! I can finally say I completed my undergraduate degree. Earning a Bachelor of Science in Journalism: Visual Communication; its been a long, exciting, and at times very very frustrating journey. I want to encourage you to keep fighting the good fight, finish the race, and kept the faith.
Even as I write this post I think of all the times that I failed, some were public failures somewhere private and I’m sure I will experience failure in the future, yet, that doesn’t mean give up. I encourage you to use it as an opportunity to learn, cry if you have to, seek out help, and try again I’m telling you it’s totally worth it!
Words can’t express how thankful I am for each and every person who encouraged me throughout the journey whether it was asking how homework was going, offering to help, or just reminding me that I simply can finish what I started!
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:
☆ What goal do you what to complete and what is your plan?
☆ Do you have a degree? If yes what it’s it in? If no do you what one?
Della Marie Levi of The Dream Big Sister Circle, and Rock Candy Earrings & Things By Della Marie and Aleka C. Thrash of Naturally ACT and ACTPhotoMedia Present the 3nd Annual Kinky Hair Connection.
Event Features: Music, Workshops, Giveaways, Refreshments, Local Vendors, Panel Discussion, Special Guests, and so much more. Join us for a #NaturallyFabulous time!!!
Our Purpose: To connect, support, and encourage naturals, as well as those considering and transitioning, by helping them embrace, who they were born to be.
What Is A Natural Hair Meet Up: A natural hair meet up is a place where those, who have chosen styles that highlight their natural, unadulterated hair texture, gather to provide each other with support, resources and encouragement along the journey to embrace who they were born to be. It is also for people, who are considering returning to their natural hair texture and those, who want to know more about kinky, coily, loc’d or curly hair and how to care for it.
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Lavender oil is one of my favorite essential oil because of its ability to calm. It’s often used in aromatherapy, known to help with stress, anxiety, acne, and even respiratory problems. Many don’t realize it also has great benefits for all hair types as well.
Let’s break down the benefits:
- Lavender oil prevents hair shedding and improves blood circulation on the scalp which aids in hair growth.
- Add Lavender essential oil to your deep conditioner for a nutrient boost.
- For scalp massage, mix 8-10 drops in 2 Tbsp of warm extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Work it into the scalp with your fingers. I personally have used this as a pre-poo treatment, I leave it on my hair overnight to maximize its healing and nourishing properties while helping me sleep.
- Lavender oil relieves stress providing restful sleep. You can cover your head with a head wrap or bonnet when you sleep, this makes a perfect overnight treatment be sure to wash your hair in the morning.
- Do you suffer from an itchy, dry scalp? Lavender oil has powerful antiseptic qualities treating dry scalp, fungi, bacteria, and other microbes.
- Massaging your scalp with a mix lavender oil can help.
- Add few drops of lavender oil to any carrier oil like jojoba oil, coconut oil, or extra virgin olive oil. You can also add a few drops to your favorite shampoo, conditioner, or deep conditioner.
- If you wear wigs try applying the lavender and coconut oil or jojoba oil-mix to your hair to help keep your scalp nourished underneath.
I believe Lavender oil is a must-have essential oil for improving your hair, skin, and overall health. Consider adding lavender oil to your daily regimen.
Disclaimer: Always dilute the essential oil with a carrier oil.
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☆ Do you want more information on essential oils?
☆ Have you tried essential oils? Which ones are your favorites?
So it’s almost 2:00am and I just took out my crochet pixie style. I needed to go to bed but didn’t have time to wash my hair. So I grabbed some of my favorite products, did a chunky twist-out and captured it all on my InstaStory! Hope You Enjoy!
Mielle Organics Avocado Hair Milk
Q-Redew | Handheld Hair Steamer
Mielle Organics Edge Control